As with many people, she is realising how much she actually gained from being around people. The small gestures, random conversations, our ‘sparking’ off each other.
Being human means being connected. We can be ‘introverts’ but still love the warmth and light that comes from being around people. Maybe we don’t want to take that for granted!
There are many other self-realisations that are occurring for people during social isolation time.
“I used to have to walk to the train station and hated it, it was boring. Now I love walking!”
“So the difference is?” I ask.
“Now I can walk without it having to be about getting somewhere.”
“So previously you were walking within a frame of mind that said this walk is a chore and is not enjoyable. All that was different was what the mind said about the walk.”
“So you could possibly learn that a walk is a walk, whether it goes somewhere or not, and that it could be enjoyed either way.”
We both agreed that this was pretty Zen but totally true. There’s a freedom in that.
Then there’s the families playing board games and charades, taking walks together and actually talking with each other.
“We have so much time and space for each other now. No running around like mad things getting to all the appointments and engagements we had” said one person.
“I feel like we have gone back to the 1950’s and that is not a bad thing”, said another. “I’m loving this slow down. I get to ponder and take time with things. This is such a luxury.”
The people saying these things understand that many are suffering during this time, and indeed they may be under stress themselves. They believe however, that there is a silver lining in the situation that we could take advantage of if we chose.
So could we take things we are learning during the Covid isolation time and maintain them afterwards?
Could we appreciate the simple act of just being around people; appreciate that we are part of the human community and this is good?
Could we remember that going more slowly and making time for each other is really worth it? Worth more than the constant stream of activity and commitments we previously filled our lives with?
And could we learn that we are free to dismantle and reconstruct our ideas about how activities are done? That our minds sometimes build prisons that our hearts need release from.